Archive for October, 2006

Why Mark Foley is Truly a Slimeball

Posted by Kevin on October 24th, 2006

Why is Mark Foley truly a slimeball? Rarely has a more difficult question been asked. So many reasons readily proffer themselves…

Is it because he had inappropriate relationships with teenagers?

Is it because that this closeted gay man, who has never done anything to help our community and has no integrity at all, has done incalculable harm to the image of gay people everywhere due to his inappropriate behavior?

Is it because he takes no responsibility for his bad behavior, blaming it first on alcohol and then on alleged abuse which took place apparently during the Kennedy administration?

Or is it because he stands by while Republican gay staffers are scapegoated and a witch hunt has begun on Capitol Hill?

The right answer is: Yes to everything!!!!

Mark Foley is the poster boy for amorality: someone who does whatever he wants to satisfy his own desires and then takes no responsibility for anyone who gets hurt in the process. If he’s really so worried about clerical misbehavior in the Catholic Church, he’d get involved with SNAP, The Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, a volunteer self-help organization of survivors of clergy sexual abuse and their supporters (http://www.snapnetwork.org/). But Mark doesn’t care to try to be part of the solution: he just wants to make someone else the problem.

The Problem with Weddings

Posted by Kevin on October 13th, 2006

I don’t know what it is all about, but 4 of my last 6 weekends have been taken up with weddings, two of which I was the officiant for.  All the couples were heterosexual.   I don’t begrudge any of these folks their happiness — hell, I was the “:minister” for 2 of the couples.  But in light of the recent New York court ruling that said Jeff and I didn’t have the right to marry, I do begrudge the legal rights which I am denied.  Jeff and I have been a couple for 12 years: none of the folks whose weddings we attended had even been a couple for half of that.  Yet they get full legal recognition, and we don’t.  It’s irksome that none of the couples acknowledged the denial of mine and Jeff’s rights.  I love them all, but it bothered me, and definitely colored my feelings about the events.

For those who do have the privilege of getting married, I urge them to recognize that and do something about it.  One thing they can do is register with the I Do Foundation (http://www.idofoundation.org/).  The I Do Foundation links engaged couples with a host of charitable giving options at their wedding. By incorporating a charitable focus into life celebrations, the I Do Foundation helps families establish a pattern of giving that will last a lifetime.   Among the charities they should list are those working to extend marriage equality to same sex couples, like Marriage Equality (http://www.marriageequality.org), Lambda Legal Defense (www.LambdaLegal.org) , The National Center for Lesbian Rights (www.NCLRights.org) , Gay & Lesbian Advocate and Defenders (http://glad.org/), or the ACLU (www.aclu.org).